I’ve covered a lot about why we eat or why we don’t eat right, or why we sabotage ourselves, but I wanted recap with the focus of will power. It’s time to figure out why you are really not losing weight, and stop blaming your inability to follow through with a ‘diet’.
1. Diets SUCK.
I don’t care what book you pick up, or what magazine you read, all diets suck. Eating should be something that is sustainable for your life, not just a few weeks. You should not have to go around with a measuring cup, calculator, scale, or a notebook, or anything for that matter for the rest of your life trying to figure out how much or little of something to eat. We should just know how to eat. And if you’ve been reading my blog for any amount of time, you know exactly what that means. Stop eating foods that were never meant to go inside of you. Simple.
You probably don’t do crack, and if you do – well that might be your first problem.. But if you don’t do crack, you probably don’t pat yourself on the back for having some great will power to not do crack. You know it is not good for your body, you know that it will kill you, you know that it does not belong in your body, so you don’t do it. Animal products are like crack. They don’t belong in you, so stop putting them inside of you, and stop looking at people who are plant based as having some great will power, we don’t, we’re just putting what is supposed to be in our bodies, and keeping out what is not supposed to be there.
I’ve talked a lot about how there addictive chemicals and hormones in animal products that might be causing you to overeat. Not just over eat that particular product, but anything in site. There are a lot of these chemicals that are causing brain reactions that are begging you for more food. Sugar is also a problem for a lot of people (note MOST sugar is not vegan – most sugar has bone char in it, at the very least stay away from products with sugar that is not completely organic and natural, or stick to agave) realize that aside from animal products or processed foods, you could be addicted to sugar. It’s not lack will power that keeps you coming back for more, it’s addictions. Even if you don’t think you have any addictions to something, more than likely, you probably do. If you have ever said “well I only eat a little of … ” or “I don’t eat X very often” then, you really don’t have a reason to eat it anymore, do you? And if that notion bothers you, you more than likely are addicted. We get mad when the things we are addicted to go away. So if there is a food or drink that you feel you would be upset over not being able to eat anymore – you more than likely, are addicted to it in some way.
You tell yourself that you can’t lose weight or work out because you don’t have it in you to be that disciplined, however there is a part of you that really does not want to lose weight, or be healthy. This has been one of the major keys in my journey, I would start to be successful, and then do something that would sabotage it all. I did this for years, I was a yo yo dieter. Except, I don’t call it yo yo anymore, I call it the sabotage diet. You start off eating right, working out, and then you stop. And truth be told, you know exactly why you stopped. It’s not will power, it’s because for some of us, we don’t really want to lose weight. That might not register for some, you might be sitting there, reading this saying “OH YOU HAVE NO IDEA, I WANT to lose weight!!”. And maybe that is true, maybe the hang ups for you are only physical, but for most of us, it’s not the case. Most of us need to figure out what is going on inside, and work from the inside out. *This may require seeking out professional help, something that I highly recommend for anyone going through a major life change like this.* It has never been your lack of will power, but maybe it is that you do have will power, the power to stop yourself from being successful every single time, you have tremendous power, you have just decided that you will use it against you, not for you. The truth is, it takes discipline (although not a good kind) to continue eating poorly, and not working out. Your body WANTS to be healthy and it wants to move and be active. For years, you have had will power, it just hasn’t been used for good.
Depression and sabotage could probably go in the same category, but I think that depression is something that really needs it’s own focus. I was severely depressed for many years. It took me a long time, and a lot of therapy to work out of a very dark depression. I didn’t do drugs, I didn’t smoke, and I didn’t drink, but I did eat. I ate because I wanted to feel miserable. I ate because I knew it was killing me. I ate because I didn’t care about my life enough to want to be any different. For years, I used food to punish myself, to hurt myself, and because I really did not care about my life anymore. Maybe you are there, maybe you just eat because you do not find joy in your life. Perhaps, driving to your job every day, maybe your family life, your love life are all things that you dread thinking about. You eat, because, there is something inside of you that tells you, you are not good enough to be healthy, you are not good enough to be comfortable. This is such a serious problem, and I think it’s not talked about enough. Many people who are obese are depressed. It seems, the more we gain weight the further it proves just what a loser we are, and the depression gets worse. If this is you, if you are depressed, I want to encourage you to seek help.
You are not a loser, your life is worth living, every thing that you are going through, can be changed, it can be fixed. It might take some work, but your life, does not have to be the way it currently is. There are answers, there is hope.
5. You are not strapped to the fork.
Whatever you take away from all of this, know that you are not strapped to the fork. You are not defined by your inability to not lose weight, or to struggle with losing weight. Live your life, stop obsessing over your inability to become healthy, and simply live your life. Take the guess work out of what you should be eating, and start living your life. I think that sometimes we really see ourselves as being slaves to our food in some way, we’re in this constant battle, but I don’t think food was ever meant to be fought with. Food should be enjoyable, it should be satisfying, it should be tasty, but it should not be something you are at war with.
Find other things in your life. Take up a new hobby, start dancing, sign up for a 5K in a few months. Start living your life, and using food to fuel your body, not to self medicate, not to stuff emotions down, and not to continue your addictions. LIVE. It’s okay to eat, it’s okay to enjoy food, stop trying so hard to find this magical “will power” to stop eating. Start finding the reasons behind what is really causing what you’ve deemed a lack of will power, and go after it. You have a tremendous ability to relearn, to teach yourself, and to change. It’s time to put all of your past failures with “diets” away, and it’s time to start simply living your life.
Each day make a step toward your new, healthy life. Ask yourself each day “What am I doing today to move a step closer to who I want to be?” and then, take that step, and if you have a hard time with that step, you might need to take a look a little deeper, and ask yourself the real reasons why you don’t want to move forward, or what is stopping you from moving forward. It is not your lack of will power, stop using that as an excuse, because as long as you do, you won’t find the real answers.