Saturday, September 19, 2020

Not Losing Weight? Here Are The Real Reasons Why


I’ve covered a lot about why we eat or why we don’t eat right, or why we sabotage ourselves, but I wanted recap with the focus of will power. It’s time to figure out why you are really not losing weight, and stop blaming your inability to follow through with a ‘diet’.

1. Diets SUCK.

I don’t care what book you pick up, or what magazine you read, all diets suck. Eating should be something that is sustainable for your life, not just a few weeks. You should not have to go around with a measuring cup, calculator, scale, or a notebook, or anything for that matter for the rest of your life trying to figure out how much or little of something to eat. We should just know how to eat. And if you’ve been reading my blog for any amount of time, you know exactly what that means. Stop eating foods that were never meant to go inside of you. Simple.

You probably don’t do crack, and if you do – well that might be your first problem.. But if you don’t do crack, you probably don’t pat yourself on the back for having some great will power to not do crack. You know it is not good for your body, you know that it will kill you, you know that it does not belong in your body, so you don’t do it. Animal products are like crack. They don’t belong in you, so stop putting them inside of you, and stop looking at people who are plant based as having some great will power, we don’t, we’re just putting what is supposed to be in our bodies, and keeping out what is not supposed to be there.

2. Addictions.

I’ve talked a lot about how there addictive chemicals and hormones in animal products that might be causing you to overeat. Not just over eat that particular product, but anything in site. There are a lot of these chemicals that are causing brain reactions that are begging you for more food. Sugar is also a problem for a lot of people (note MOST sugar is not vegan – most sugar has bone char in it, at the very least stay away from products with sugar that is not completely organic and natural, or stick to agave) realize that aside from animal products or processed foods, you could be addicted to sugar. It’s not lack will power that keeps you coming back for more, it’s addictions. Even if you don’t think you have any addictions to something, more than likely, you probably do. If you have ever said “well I only eat a little of … ” or “I don’t eat X very often” then, you really don’t have a reason to eat it anymore, do you? And if that notion bothers you, you more than likely are addicted. We get mad when the things we are addicted to go away. So if there is a food or drink that you feel you would be upset over not being able to eat anymore – you more than likely, are addicted to it in some way.

3. Sabotage.

You tell yourself that you can’t lose weight or work out because you don’t have it in you to be that disciplined, however there is a part of you that really does not want to lose weight, or be healthy. This has been one of the major keys in my journey, I would start to be successful, and then do something that would sabotage it all. I did this for years, I was a yo yo dieter. Except, I don’t call it yo yo anymore, I call it the sabotage diet. You start off eating right, working out, and then you stop. And truth be told, you know exactly why you stopped. It’s not will power, it’s because for some of us, we don’t really want to lose weight. That might not register for some, you might be sitting there, reading this saying “OH YOU HAVE NO IDEA, I WANT to lose weight!!”. And maybe that is true, maybe the hang ups for you are only physical, but for most of us, it’s not the case. Most of us need to figure out what is going on inside, and work from the inside out. *This may require seeking out professional help, something that I highly recommend for anyone going through a major life change like this.* It has never been your lack of will power, but maybe it is that you do have will power, the power to stop yourself from being successful every single time, you have tremendous power, you have just decided that you will use it against you, not for you. The truth is, it takes discipline (although not a good kind) to continue eating poorly, and not working out. Your body WANTS to be healthy and it wants to move and be active. For years, you have had will power, it just hasn’t been used for good.

4. Depression.

Depression and sabotage could probably go in the same category, but I think that depression is something that really needs it’s own focus. I was severely depressed for many years. It took me a long time, and a lot of therapy to work out of a very dark depression. I didn’t do drugs, I didn’t smoke, and I didn’t drink, but I did eat. I ate because I wanted to feel miserable. I ate because I knew it was killing me. I ate because I didn’t care about my life enough to want to be any different. For years, I used food to punish myself, to hurt myself, and because I really did not care about my life anymore. Maybe you are there, maybe you just eat because you do not find joy in your life. Perhaps, driving to your job every day, maybe your family life, your love life are all things that you dread thinking about. You eat, because, there is something inside of you that tells you, you are not good enough to be healthy, you are not good enough to be comfortable. This is such a serious problem, and I think it’s not talked about enough. Many people who are obese are depressed. It seems, the more we gain weight the further it proves just what a loser we are, and the depression gets worse. If this is you, if you are depressed, I want to encourage you to seek help.

You are not a loser, your life is worth living, every thing that you are going through, can be changed, it can be fixed. It might take some work, but your life, does not have to be the way it currently is. There are answers, there is hope.

5. You are not strapped to the fork.

Whatever you take away from all of this, know that you are not strapped to the fork. You are not defined by your inability to not lose weight, or to struggle with losing weight. Live your life, stop obsessing over your inability to become healthy, and simply live your life. Take the guess work out of what you should be eating, and start living your life. I think that sometimes we really see ourselves as being slaves to our food in some way, we’re in this constant battle, but I don’t think food was ever meant to be fought with. Food should be enjoyable, it should be satisfying, it should be tasty, but it should not be something you are at war with.

Find other things in your life. Take up a new hobby, start dancing, sign up for a 5K in a few months. Start living your life, and using food to fuel your body, not to self medicate, not to stuff emotions down, and not to continue your addictions. LIVE. It’s okay to eat, it’s okay to enjoy food, stop trying so hard to find this magical “will power” to stop eating. Start finding the reasons behind what is really causing what you’ve deemed a lack of will power, and go after it. You have a tremendous ability to relearn, to teach yourself, and to change. It’s time to put all of your past failures with “diets” away, and it’s time to start simply living your life.

Each day make a step toward your new, healthy life. Ask yourself each day “What am I doing today to move a step closer to who I want to be?” and then, take that step, and if you have a hard time with that step, you might need to take a look a little deeper, and ask yourself the real reasons why you don’t want to move forward, or what is stopping you from moving forward. It is not your lack of will power, stop using that as an excuse, because as long as you do, you won’t find the real answers.


  1. Kathy

    I would swear that you were a nutritionist. You say things that have always been in the back of my mind, but never actually came out of my mouth. I know this is because I AM, “chained to the fork” with no willpower. I have a deep desire to lose weight, but I also have all the tools to sabotage myself wherever possible. I know I have a lot to work on, but honestly, your blog helps me just because I am where you used to be. I see how healthy you are, and I see how much weight you’ve lost, and I see you living a life I dream of. You and your blog lift me up. Thanks 😮

  2. Maggie

    You’re so right, that getting eating under control has nothing to do with will power. If you rely on will power alone then you’ll wind up exhausted after a week or a month, depending on how much will power you have. No one has enough to last a lifetime.

    I haven’t read your whole blog, so forgive me if you’ve explained this elsewhere, but I’m really surprised at how anti-animal products you are. Humans are omnivores, always have been. And there aren’t addictive hormones in most meat. It is against FDA regulations. Wherever you’re getting that information, it’s a myth. As a woman who is prone to anemia and runs 30 miles a week, I can’t imagine getting enough protein from plants alone, and being a healthy vegan. Not that it couldn’t be done, but for me it would mean having to carry that notebook and calculator around and obsessing about food, which is the last thing I need. All of my vegan friends have had health issues, and have to take iron supplements. Veganism is not for everyone!

  3. Nat

    Maggie – I used to think the same thing, so I completely understand where you are coming from.
    It wasn’t until I read China Study, and several other books and talked to several doctors, naturopaths, and nutritionists who could weight in on the matter that I started to understand that we are not omnivores.

    There is nothing about our bodies that were set up to be omnivores, our acidity in our stomachs, the structure of our intestines, our jaw lines, teeth, nails, eye site, smell – all of it is like that of a herbivore. (there are A LOT more, but those are the ones off the top of my head)

    There are natural hormones in all meats, and dairy products. It’s natural for them, it’s not natural for us to consume them. Casein is a natural product of milk, that has very high addictive qualities to it. It is meant for baby cows, just like human milk is meant for baby humans.
    There are numerous studies on the amount of estrogen in chicken and chicken eggs as well. I haven’t heard anyone question the hormones end of things – it’s been very well known for many years now, it’s a way to make more money – more hormones mean bigger animals.

    If you know unhealthy vegans, they would be unhealthy as non vegans. Vegans, just like every one else need to be on top of what they are eating.
    We need 25-50 grams of protein per day, I get that and more each day – easily.

    I don’t know if you have read any of my story, you will know the diabetes side of this for me. And each day I hear from dozens of people who have other conditions that have been completely healed after going plant based. I myself, was a severe diabetic a year ago, on 100 units of insulin per day, I had tried every thing under the sun. It wasn’t until I rid myself of the things that were not supposed to be in my body, did things start to change. Thousands of people are healing from simply not putting the stress on their bodies of things that are not supposed to be digested by their bodies.

    Being vegan, I get so much more of what I need than I ever did eating animal products. Every single vitamin level, including my iron counts have increased in significant levels.

    More and more studies and research is coming out daily saying that eating a plant based diet is best.

    Not until I went plant based did I realize how my body worked, and how easy it was to get the things I need by eating a plant based diet.
    I really would have said the SAME exact thing as you wrote – and I also had iron problems (big time). So again, I’m really saying that I understand completely where you are coming from.. it’s really hard to have been in a society where for years the information has been so wrong and so misguided. I’m thankful that finally, there are more and more doctors and scientists really helping people understand what eating plant based is all about.

    If you would like to read more about the science behind it all, I highly recommend picking up “The China Study”. Starting there is a good place, it is the most comprehensive study on nutrition ever conducted, and leaves no question unanswered.

    You don’t have to believe me on all of this – I would just really look into it on your own terms and see what you discover, in the end I tell everyone to be sure to not take my word for it, do research, find out every thing you can, and then make the best decision for yourself.

  4. April

    I’ve been a happy vegan for 4 weeks now – but I do also think there is some validity to the idea that everyone’s body works differently. Human bodies have adapted to different nutrients, depending on what was needed, over time. (Case in point: almost all Asians are lactose-intolerant, where the number is much lower in white folks, who over time developed more of an ability to digest cows milk, being land-locked and all up there in Europe.) There are also cultures (think Eskimos or the native peoples of Australia) who lived on meat or insects almost exclusively and did perfectly fine. In other places/times people have been vegans or close to it. The human body has an amazing capacity to adapt to many things, excluding crappy things like cheetos and coke.

    I’m always wary of one-size-fits-all solutions. It’s tempting when you find something that works for you, to assume it’s going to work for everyone (ie, the zeal of religious fanatics would be based on this logic.) But I don’t think it does any disrespect to one’s own choices to recognize the fact that we are all genetically different, culturally different, etc., and that others make very valid and healthy choices based on their own needs.

    So where certain foods are addictive for you and me, Natala, they very well may not have that same effect on everyone. Just like alcohol can make one person an alcoholic on the first drink, but others drink in moderation their whole lives without temptation to do otherwise.

    All that being said, for me, personally, I’ve enjoyed vegan eating so far! And I haven’t felt any sort of lack of energy, although I am going to try to start being more intentional about my calcium intake. The best think I can recommend to people, as I am on this journey, is to keep trying things and really learn to listen to your body, and to respect what it tells you. It won’t be the same for everyone, but that skill – listening – is the thing that really IS helpful for everyone.

  5. Nat

    You are right April.. I think that our bodies have adapted to certain things, and one of the reasons why we require certain nutrients is because of our adaptation to certain foods.

    For me, the reason for being a vegan stretch far beyond my health. That is certainly one aspect to all of it, but there are many more now that I have learned over the course of this year.

    Again, for anyone, I would recommend doing your own research and fact finding, and finding multiple sources of information – it really is a very complex thing.

  6. Melissa

    I became a vegan 12 years ago! I absolutely love my life as a vegan. The health part was not a factor for me becoming vegan at all. I am glad that more and more books and studies are coming out speaking the truth of how our bodies were originally intended to thrive.

    Of course, if someone can not access plants, they have to make modifications, like any animal. If we were trapped in the Andes Mountains and had nothing to eat, we may resort to cannibalism, out of necessity as well.

    I’m completely healthy, and get a good bill of health every doctor visit!

    Coming from this all with A/R being my main focus, I think I would actually encourage people who do not connect on the health side, to really focus on the Animal Rights side of all of this. If you are uninterested in becoming vegan for yourself, there are many other living creatures who would benefit from the change.

    The amount of people who can simply not eat a vegan diet is very small. If you are one of those people, you can only do what you are able to do. If you are not one of those people, I would say to do what Natalya says, and just really start researching it all.

    My book suggestion on it is: “Meat Market” and also “Earthlings” is a fantastic movie on the animal industry.

  7. Laura

    Another long time vegan here. Five years to be exact. I also did not go vegan for health reasons, but my health drastically improved after going vegan. My doctors were amazed. With out getting into all of my health problems, I had some significant hormone problems, that have since gone away.

    I also wanted to chime in to say that for many vegans, health is a part of it, but not all of it. I know Natala you are also passionate about what is happening to animals, and I think it’s probably hard to jump into all sides of veganism in any one post.

    As someone who cares deeply about the environment and about animals, being vegan is the only possible answer for me, and I have not found any other viable options, nor do I have the desire to.

    If you are interested in becoming vegan, that is great, there are so many resources, on health, on animal rights and on the environment.

  8. James

    2 years ago I had a heart attack at 37, I wasn’t fat, I thought I was healthy. I went to a doctor who told me to stop eating anything that came from an animal, she told me the only place we get cholesterol is from animals, I was completely clueless.
    I got healthy, and have stayed vegan. My wife and kids are also vegan. We are completely healthy.
    Before I became vegan I was a typical male meat eating jackass. I made fun of vegetarians, and even went hunting from time to time.
    Needless to say, having a heart attack woke me up! I didn’t have any books to go on back then, just trusted my doctor. Now, there is a lot more help out there. China Study is a good book for all of this for anyone who needs that kind of info, or just try it and see what happens.

  9. Tina

    Love the post Nat! I think it’s important for people to realize that it takes years to really understand all the aspects of being a vegan. If you have recently become vegan, or you are just thinking about it, there is a world of information out there, and it takes a lot of time to even scratch the surface of being vegan. I’ve been vegan for about three years now, and I still find out new facts and information every day. Be patient with learning. There is a lot of misinformation that has been spread for years, and a lot done to knock vegans down. Def. look into all aspects of it, and be patient with learning.

  10. Dilon

    The FDA does not have our best interest. I just watched Food INC. disgusting stuff happens to our meat supply. To me, it’s just not worth the risk of eating it anymore, doesn’t do any good for my body either, and I’m not going to take those risks just because I think it might be too hard to be vegan. If I could just grow all my food I would. lol, my tiny apartment doesn’t really work for that!

  11. Geoff

    I got a a rescue dog who had been abused and then made the connection, I wouldn’t abuse and eat my dog so why would I do the same to another animal. I’m a pretty simple guy. I am completely healthy, my health also improved, and I also got married, which is probably not because I became a vegan, but I’m a newly wed, and very happy.

  12. Vegan Mom

    I want to meet some unhealthy vegans! People always tell me that every vegan they know is unhealthy, but I don’t know any who are. Every vegan I’ve met are the most healthy people I know.
    I became a vegan when my son had some health problems and our doctor also recommended that we cut out all dairy first. I started to look into it, we started out with eliminating dairy, and saw really significant changes.
    I would never have said that I was addicted to any food, I’ve always been healthy, thin, and very athletic. I still saw some really big changes in the way I felt. We became completely vegan over time, the more I read and found out about being vegan, I just could not bring myself to live another way. My son’s health has completely become better, we are very happy as vegans and very healthy! It’s a matter of finding out facts, even if they tick you off at first!

    Vegan Mom

  13. Charles

    Health benefits are great, the environmental reasons are great, the social reasons are great, but ultimately you are saving the lives of millions of innocent animals!
    Someone commented above that very few people can not live a vegan life, I completely 100% agree. Most of us can, and most of us could make a big difference. We don’t have to make another creature suffer in order to survive on this planet. The health part is kind of cherries on top for me. I was also considered healthy before going vegan, and I also had some unexpected health benefits. But, again, I do it for the animals, because I love animals!

  14. Jen

    I grew up a thin kid, but time and life have finally caught up to me! I started trying lots of different diets and finally read a book called “The Food Revolution” which discussed GMOs (genetically modified organisms). I decided to get rid of everything in my kitchen that contained GMOs, and not much was left. In order to avoid GMOs, I started buying organic produce and shopping less and less at conventional grocery stores.
    I continued reading and learned about factory farming. I realized that when I ate meat, I was also eating the fear that the animal experienced. I’d been vegetarian off & on for about 20 years, so giving up meat wasn’t a huge step for me. My family wasn’t too happy because I stopped cooking meat for them as well, but now 2 of my children are also vegetarian. We stopped eating eggs right away, but dairy was more difficult. I switched to almond milk (40 calories/serving!) and love it!
    I’ve been completely vegan now for a little over a year. I don’t take iron supplements, but have been able to give blood regularly. (My son and I both passed the blood iron level test while the two omnivores there with us did not). I feel fantastic, and when I can keep my grains limited, lose weight very easily. Most of all, I feel at peace because the vegan lifestyle lines up with my own personal ethic of nonviolence toward all creatures.
    Being vegan is often seen as an extreme lifestyle or one that can’t be pleasurable. I couldn’t disagree more! I’ve eaten a much more varied diet since becoming vegan, and have no trouble at all sticking with it.
    I’ve loved reading your posts, which are very insightful and interesting! Thanks!

  15. need to lose weight!

    I quit all dairy in 2001 when the Twin Towers fell here in Manhattan; I heard Shelton Walden’s program on WBAI a few days after, and his guest was Robert Cohen, the “Not-Milk” man, talking about how dairy was “pus with hormones and glue.” I was sold; I did find, though: reading labels showed me that processed foods sneak in a lot of dairy components, and I have to be ever-vigilant. Meat followed soon after, because I couldn’t see getting rid of one and not the other. I’m one of the few people I know who quit dairy first.

    I also don’t feed my dog murdered animals—or even my cat. Corky—my dog—had been on the street for a while before I got him, though, so he tends to grab things he finds on the street and hold onto them tenaciously. (I have to be ever-vigilant with him, too!)

    I only wish I’d quit meat and dairy years earlier, since I’d been heading down that path for twenty years or so. I have never seen it documented that anyone “needs” animal protein; I’ve only heard people’s opinions that “I need meat!” “I love meat!” or the best: my sister gets the look of a junkie in her eyes when she says, “I refuuuse to give up cheese!”

  16. hanlie

    Wonderful post! For me it’s really been a step-by-step process… The time when I tried to fly too high too soon would see me crashing down to the ground. I can really identify with the self-sabotage… I wanted to hurt myself.

    I’m so glad that I had the patience to stick out the transitioning process (it took me three years). At the moment I’m doing a 21-day raw cleanse and loving it!

  17. Beth

    I’ve been reading through these comments, I think one of the big differences I see are from people who have been a vegan for a long time, and people who are just starting or curious. It takes a long time to understand what being a vegan is, and how our bodies should work. I would not go as far as saying we’ve adapted to anything, meat, dairy or otherwise. We wouldn’t consider people who take LSD to have adapted to it, even if they don’t die right away. Technically we can eat or drink just about anything, but it doesn’t mean that we should, or that it is meant for our bodies.
    If you look at the rates of disease in this country compared to other countries, you will quickly see that we have not adapted, we have just become more sick.
    I’ve been a vegan for 7 years. I still don’t know all there is to know, and recently read China Study, and understood even more all of the health aspects of why being vegan is better.

    I also think there are a lot of reasons to become vegan, health just being one of them. If someone does not want to do it for their health, they could look into the truth behind animal suffering, that is my number one reason for being vegan! I also care about the environment, and know that I can not be a meat eater and care about the environment.

    It’s a journey though, for everyone. My sister was vegan for years before I became a vegan! I questioned her all the time about it, and made sweeping generalizations about vegans and what I thought to be the truth. She was patient, thank God!

    I don’t have weight to lose, but I appreciate your posts, I think it sheds some light on people who are overweight.


  18. Beth

    Maggi, I understand your questions about the health as vegans as well. I also had the same questions.
    A word on hormones, to my knowledge there are 6 or 7 approved hormones in meat and dairy products by the FDA. One of them is the growth hormone. Food Inc covers this. Essentially, in order to make animals bigger they have to give them hormones to grow.
    The same goes for cows, cows, like humans only produce milk after they give birth, up to 2 years. Cows are given hormones in order to sustain the milking process.
    You might be thinking of steroids. But as far as hormones are concerned, a majority of our meat and dairy supply is approved to have growth hormones.

    It definitely is a lot of information! However, if you are interested there is a lot out there.

    Good luck!

I went on a plant based diet after diabetes almost took my life. Now, almost 2 years later not only have I reduced my type 2 diabetes symptoms, I have lost close to 200 pounds (and still losing). This is a place where I write about my journey as I continue the quest for health, and living a good life for today, and long into the future. Get hold of me on

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