Stress and parenting can definitely go hand in hand. What can you as a parent do to change this?
There are few things that can lead to chronic stress in this world more than parenting. However, this does not have to be the case.
Raising children definitely requires a great deal of patience probably more than any other activity.
This can cover a wide range of circumstances for long time periods but it doesn’t have to be a source of chronic stress.
Yes, there can be challenges in being a parent, but it does not have to be so stressful.
Stress is both a physical and mental condition that occurs when there is a conflict is not able to be resolved.
It is basically between I can’t and I must.
It is inevitable to find these components in parenting. There are many times when a parent will want to achieve a particular outcome.
That is the I must part. There are many times when you throw in the towel and say I can’t.
There are few goals that are so long-term and so fundamental that you should regard them as being overwhelmingly important.
If they are not that important, you should not be overwhelmed when you strive for them.
These two components do not have to occur together. If you cannot achieve a particular goal, you should not let it get the best of you.
It is essential to be a realistic parent just as with every other aspect of life. There are very few musts in parenting.
There are many goals that are worthy, desirable and noble. However, there are very few that are mandatory.
The education of children is very important but difficult. No single school, no matter what the age, is essential to a successful life.
There are always options available. Sometimes it may require that you make some unpleasant or difficult choices. This may require looking for alternative schools, relocating or homeschooling
These choices do not have to be stressors and added parental stress in your life.
Seriously considering choices does not have to lead to chronic worry, feelings of helplessness, insomnia or continual irritability which are all common stress symptoms.
It is possible to see a goal as being important without necessarily having the resources needed to achieve it. Even when you do not, you can often develop or acquire them.
Again, using education as an example, many parents worry about how they are going to pay for their child’s college education.
There are various ways of financing a college education just like financing a home. It seems that the two are becoming about equal in cost!
One parenting dilemma which is particularly stress-inducing is when you have a child who will not listen and whose behavior is unruly or even violent. There is rarely a quick fix to this.
However, if one exhibits an attitude of confidence in the ability to find the answers, this will go a long way toward minimizing stress.
If a parent cannot immediately find the resources for solving this problem, his or her confidence will tell them to look for answers wherever they can be found whether it be advice from friends, counselors, grandparents or Internet sites. You will find that others have had similar problems and have learned to deal with them.
Stress only enters the equation when you believe that there is no way to solve a problem that you simply must solve.
Throwing out the false alternatives still leaves you with a problem and the added burden of stress. Dealing with it will reduce stress and parenting.