There is nothing greater than two soul mates saying their wedding vows before God. The wedding venue is paid, and the disc jockey is booked for the night with your playlist in hand. The caterer has the perfect menu set for your guests, and the cake—it is going to be more beautiful than you imagined when you were tasting flavors. Your honeymoon is booked, while you just mailed invitations out. The only task left on your list is to sit with your fiancée and plan your daunting wedding registry. You will get through this, just as everything else has fallen into place.
Consider keeping a realistic price range for the average guest. It is normal to have pans, mixers and other expensive items on your list. Parents are usually the first to snatch these off the list and make them a dream come true. Be reasonable and your wedding guests will be generous with their money. Think about it. Do you really need a crystal vase that is going to sit in a cupboard and gather dust? Keep less expensive items on the list, too, such as placemats, sheets or that hand-held mixer that would match your stand mixer.
In addition, make an inventory. It is wise to go room by room and make a list of what you want to get for your wedding. This will help your list down to earth and weed out the items that not so necessary. For instance, let’s consider the kitchen. You may want an indoor grill, a decent blender or more oven mitts for the stove. These are all reasonable items to put on the registry, as long as they hold some significance to you. They have to have a reason to be on your list. If not, then off they go.
Also, choose stores that are meaningful to your fiancée and yourself. Most of your wedding guests will already expect to look for your registry at these stores, and will know exactly what you would like most. Try to limit your registries to two-three stores, however, in order to give wedding guests opportunity to find that perfect gift for such a fantastic couple. Do not expect to get everything off the list; trust me, it never happens. This is why you register for gifts. There are sure to be gifts left over, in which you can use your wedding money to purchase them.
It is proper wedding etiquette to register one gift per wedding guest. This means that if you invite 250 people to your wedding, you had better have 250 gifts total on all your combined registries. Do not expect all these people to show up, however, because that does not happen. What would grandma get you, and how would that differ than Uncle Joe? Keep a variety of gifts on the registry ranging from housewares, bedding, fun gifts and so on. It is better to prepared for this magical day, so plan your registry carefully with guests in mind.
Before the first wedding shower, review the registry. Weed out multiples and those gifts you do not expect to get. After the wedding, be sure to write thank you notes right away. Your wedding guests appreciate knowing you admire their gratitude. Finally, count all your wedding money. How much can you put toward the gifts you did not receive, and do they still rank high on your want list? If so, go to the store and bring those items home.
Planning a wedding can be exciting and feel like a power rush. There are so many small details to worry about that you have to be organized and keep it together. The wedding registry can be fun and feel like Christmas, but try to keep it reasonable. It is your wedding and your gifts, and you want to include everyone. And, once it is done—do not look at it until your wedding night. Trust me on this. You do not want to ruin any surprises. That alone is the best advice I can give to you. Happy wedding planning!