Monday, June 24, 2019

Stop Bullying

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There has been a lot in the news about kids being bullied. There have been so many kids who have tragically taken their life because of bullies, and I am glad to see such a push in the media to bring awareness to a horrible thing.

Today I am taking a stand against bullies. I am standing up for every person who has felt like a freak, who has felt ugly, who has felt different. I grew up being the fattest person in every school, camp, job, class that I was a part of. I have been called names by strangers, classmates and even family members. I have cried myself to sleep on more nights than I ever want to remember because of bullies. I thought my life was not as important because of bullies.

Today I’m standing up against each person who laughed as I passed them in the hall, each person who left horrible notes on my locker, each person who told me I was not good enough, that I was a freak or that I did not belong.

I’m standing up against not just the bullies through school, but the adult life bullies. The bullies who stare or laugh. The bullies who told me I was not good enough for my husband because I was fat. I had a bully on my wedding day, a day that was supposed to be about me feeling my most beautiful, but I let a bully take that day away from me because of something they said about my size and about being with my husband. What was supposed to be the happiest day of my life, I allowed a bully to steal away from me.

For so long I let these people determine my self worth. I have stayed away from them, I have been scared of them, I have pretended not to care, I’ve made jokes, I’ve tried to brush it off, I’ve stood still and not stood up to them.

NO MORE.

Today I’m standing up to bullies. The ones who post rude comments to peoples walls, who tweet nasty notes, who intend to harm others with their words, who say hurtful things, who attempt to knock others down because of their own issues.

I will not allow another bully to hurt me. Every word said, every laugh, every stare does has not determined who or what I am. I determine who and what I am.

Today  I’m standing up to bullies. Because every day I have fought feeling like a loser, feeling like I don’t belong and feeling like I don’t deserve any better. No more. I refuse to let the hurtful actions of others determine how I go about my life today.

I am a beautiful person, worthy of love, worthy of acceptance, worthy of respect. I will allow no one to take that away from me.

Do not allow bullies to take away who you are. For too long I have allowed the actions of others to take away who I am.  For so long I said nothing, did nothing and let these bullies have the last word. Today I’m taking a stand, and I will now get the last word… BULLIES SUCK. STOP BULLYING!

https://www.stopbullying.gov/

10 COMMENTS

  1. Steph

    Thank you so much for this post! I was bullied as a kid because of my size, too, and it hurts so much. I know so many people who have been affected so negatively by bullies. It has to stop! I’m glad it’s out there and people are talking about it now, I just wish it could have been sooner.

    Love the Herbivore Clothing shirt. Ordered one yesterday.

  2. Sherri

    Dear Vegan Hope,

    You ARE beautiful !!

    This reminds me of the childish saying, “it bounces off me and sticks to you” (or something like that). Hurtful comments say NOTHING about the person they are directed to, but say EVERYTHING about the pain and anger of the person who said it. If we bless those who curse us, it will give us some protection from the sting of their bullying.

    Namaste

  3. Lisa

    This is awesome! And what kind of asshole says something mean on your wedding day? Says way more about them than it does you.

  4. Stephanie

    I really needed to read this today. I was bullied a lot when I was younger and you’d think that the effects would fade over time. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way, I still have social anxiety and I have to be constantly be proactive about handling it rather than just sink into a depressive spiral. I’m standing with you! Stay strong!

  5. Nat

    Steph: I also wish it could have been a lot sooner!

    Sherri – you are completely right. I have to remind myself that because someone says something about me does not make it true about me.

    Lisa – sadly I let that person ruin the happy memories of my wedding day for so many years – and I still am afraid of them and what they will say/do.

    Stephanie – I completely understand. I catch myself all the time in the beginning of a spiral, not being strong, not thinking I deserve to be treated well. It’s a process, one that is getting beter.

  6. Kc

    I loved your post. Bullies do suck. It amazes me that a grown person can actually still be a bully.

    I always enjoy reading your blog and have continued to be inspired by it.

    Thank you!

  7. Jen

    You are an amazing soul and an awesome writer. This post really touched on what so many people are thinking and don’t know what to say or are not brave enough to say it. I just stumbled upon your blog and I am really enjoying it.

  8. whole food eater

    Love love love. The news about students committing suicide lately breaks my heart. It makes me ache. We always hear that saying, sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me…but the DO hurt us. We should be treating each other kindly. Thanks for this post.

  9. Ki

    Thank you so much for this post!!!
    And for my much-needed mantra:

    “I am a beautiful person, worthy of love, worthy of acceptance, worthy of respect. I will allow no one to take that away from me.”

    Now if only I knew what to say or do to someone being nasty to me….

Nat
I went on a plant based diet after diabetes almost took my life. Now, almost 2 years later not only have I reduced my type 2 diabetes symptoms, I have lost close to 200 pounds (and still losing). This is a place where I write about my journey as I continue the quest for health, and living a good life for today, and long into the future. Get hold of me on [email protected]

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